Tell It To Venus is for those who still have hope in love and relationships; even in the current and often discouraging environment in which we live. An environment that appears to offer a slim chance of having a healthy and happy relationship, or any possibility of marriage. We are still encouraged. We understand how easy it is to become tired and discouraged; Tell It To Venus is here to listen.
I'M STILL YOUR MOTHER
Gone are the days when you heard your Mother say, “I brought
you into this world and I can take you out!”
Nobody has it like that. Your parents no longer have the
final say in what happens in your life. We’ve become so politically correct
that we are now dead ass wrong! I believe you should be educated and informed
to make an intelligent decision. But there are exceptions to every rule. I don’t
believe every teenager has the mental capacity to make life-altering decisions without
counsel from their parents or guardian.
I love my daughter with all my heart. We don’t always agree,
but she has enough respect to seek her Father’s or my counsel before making
major decisions. Although she is grown and concentrating on her career; we
still have those heart to heart conversations. Putting GOD first, I’m
comfortable with whatever conclusion she comes to. The best thing about being a
parent of a grown-up is seeing them fly and flourish.
I read an article that spoke of a Mother being horrified to
find her daughter coming home from school with a Norplant device implanted in
her arm. The woman had signed a permission slip for a field trip. Not sure if
this was part of her sex education course. Needless to say; Youth Services had
convinced this 16 year old to get this birth control device. When the Mother
realized what happened she was told her state allows the teenager to make that
decision and NEVER needed her consent. Even better; you can be 12 years old and
have the procedure done. When the Mother voiced her outrage on her social media
page she was quickly criticized and her daughter was praised for making such a
“Would you rather her come home with a baby?”
“You should be happy about it.”
No one said:
The device is inserted into the arm and remains there for 3
years. It does not protect you from HIV or STDs. Most women have issues with
their menstrual cycle and it may take quite a bit of time before your cycle
becomes regulated again. No one told this girl that they don’t know all the
side effects and nothing is guaranteed.
No one told me that the convenience of a Depo-Provera shot
would have long-lasting consequences. For all I know my gynecologist probably
received compensation for every woman that was given this shot. Here are some
of the side effects that were never discussed before I made my uninformed adult
*missed or irregular periods
*changes in skin color
*pain in the chest, legs
*shortness of breath
I could go on, but do you think I would have made the
decision if I had known all the facts? Plus they don’t tell you it may take
years before the Depo is out of your system. If you decide that you want to
become pregnant after having the shot they don’t tell you that for some it
might be an issue, or what the residual effects might be.
I think it’s interesting that girls and women of color are
always encouraged to be the guinea pigs for these clinic trials in birth
control. There is a common misconception that black teenagers will become teen
mothers. Actually, white teenaged girls are more likely to have children out of
wedlock, and be on some type of assistance. So why are organizations like
Planned Parenthood an others singling out black teens? That’s another
My heart goes out to the Mother and the daughter in this
situation. Neither did anything wrong. But the system did. As an adult sex is
complicated; there is no one size fits all. When the daughter thinks she’s in
love and wants to have sex the state will not be there. When you’ve been raised
to wait for marriage and you go against your beliefs because you love him, the
state won’t be there. Nothing is 100%. The state will not be there if you
become pregnant. I understand the Mother’s fear and outrage. Whatever situation
or consequences; her daughter knows her Mother will be there and the state will
not. Whatever the protocol, the decision, that’s still her Mother and the state
doesn’t love or care about this young woman the way her parents do. They should
have respected that that is still her Mother. Even if the daughter had the
right to make the decision it should have included her Mother. If anything
adverse happens it will be the Mother left to pick up the pieces.
Yesterday a close friend's Mother passed away. I had no words of comfort for his pain. All I could think about was who loves you like your Mother...no one.
A child preparing to be born asked God,
“They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?”
God answered, “Among the many angels, I chose one for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you.”
The child paused and again addressed God. “But tell me, here in Heaven, I don’t do anything else but sing and smile, that’s enough for me to be happy.”
“Your angel will sing for you and also smile for you every day and you will feel your angel’s love and be happy,” God replied.
“Oh,” the child said, “and how am I going to be able to understand the language that men speak?” And then, glancing at God the child asked, “What am I going to do when I want to talk to you?”
God softly touched the child on the head and said, “Your angel will place your hands together and …
I don’t usually dispense relationship advice, but I’m
not only a Certified Life Coach but certified in Relationship Counseling. After
having my own bumps in the road I began to study and assess my own mistakes.
Someone has got to have the answer. Some do. If you’re in a healthy
relationship and the work it takes to maintain your relationship seems easy
thank GOD up above. It doesn’t always happen like that. We all have our issues. Women seek men that give
them stability and support. While men look for a woman that makes them feel
good about themselves. Did she or does she make him a priority? There are some
things that men and women both want. 1.Is
this person affectionate? Do I feel loved and cared for with this person? 2.Do
we share the same values? You don’t have to agree for your moral compass to be in
I a priority? Everybody has family and other obligations, and responsibilities.
Everyone can appreciate ambition. But would you allow your job to take priority
over the perso…
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