Tell It To Venus is for those who still have hope in love and relationships; even in the current and often discouraging environment in which we live. An environment that appears to offer a slim chance of having a healthy and happy relationship, or any possibility of marriage. We are still encouraged. We understand how easy it is to become tired and discouraged; Tell It To Venus is here to listen.
WHO IS THE NEW FACE OF STEPIN FETCHIT?
With the state of the political climate; there is complete
unrest for anyone of color, or religion other than Christianity. Today is the
first day of Black History Month. Trump decided to make remarks acknowledging
“Frederick Douglass has done an amazing job.” Does he even
know who Frederick Douglass was or is? I truly doubt it. He threw around a few
other names such as Dr. Martin Luther King. Does he understand that Douglass
championed abolition and women’s suffrage? Neither cause is something I think
Trump would support now; let alone the 1800’s. Douglass went from being a slave
to one of the greatest orators of his time. He has more in common with
President Obama then Trump who lacks character. It is worth noting that
Douglass married a white woman after his first wife died.He married Helen Pitts in 1884 until his
death in 1895. I don’t see Trump being a proponent of interracial marriage. He
must have misspoken as he often does. Why would today be any different?
(Frederick Douglass and his wife Helen Pitts, with her sister.)
But the cherry on top was when he brought up two staff
members, Omarosa Manigault, and Dr. Ben Carson. The first thing that came to my
mind was Stepin Fetchit. Stepin Fetchit remains a controversial movie figure in
American history. This started out as a vaudeville routine with two actors. The
one actor continued and used the name of the partnership. Stepin Fetchit was
the stage name of Lincoln Theodore Monroe Andrew Perry. A West Indian
immigrant, Perry made several films where he perpetuated this coon character
who would talk gibberish and was lazy, and stupid; a characterization that
white audiences easily accepted as the true representation of a “Negro.” In the
height of his popularity Perry was the first black to receive film credit and
became a millionaire as a result. The coon persona negated the true personality
and intelligence of Perry. Perry was one of the first writers for The Chicago
Defender. With the act and his physical stature Perry posed no threat sexually,
physically, or otherwise.
(Omarosa has admit in several interviews that she was originally hired to be the bitch on The Apprentice, and is proud she was the first on reality TV. Please tell Trump this is no longer reality TV.)
The NAACP and countless other used Perry as the example of
the stereotype we no longer wanted seen. Sadly when Hollywood had no more use
for Perry he ended up penniless and bitter. He didn’t see his character as a
political statement. He saw himself as an actor and comedian. To this day his
physical comedy is touted as some of the best ever.
(I find narcissistic to commission a painting with Jesus.)
Do I disagree with Omarosa, Ben Carson and the Trump
administration? Hell yes!!! But I had to look at some of my own and recent
experiences. I closed my business a few years ago to become a Certified Caregiver
for my Mother. At the time it wasn’t my first choice, but there was no one else
to get Mom back on her feet. I’m glad I did it because my Mother is still here
and her health has made a miraculous turn. Fast-forward and I’m now a Certified
Life Coach and Spiritual Advisor.While
I’m funding and launching my coaching business I have been continuing the
Caregiving. I want to do the coaching full-time. I’m using the money to finance
(My purpose is greater than this caricature that was created in my likeness.)
People who know me and those who follow me on social media
know that I can be a rebel without a cause, and sometimes a straight up
militant. There’s a saying, “go along to get along.” I used to think that’s
what I’ve done recently, but now I’m not so sure I can chalk it up to such a
simple explanation. Have we (the conservative blacks) allowed certain
stereotypes to be perpetuated by my/our cooperation?I chalked it up to maturity. Overlooking
words and actions that would ordinarily make me wake up. I even chalked it up
to the client’s age, experience and outright racism. Of course the most racist
are the quickest to cry they’re not racist. I’m kept my mouth shut when she
disrespected President Obama and told that perpetual lie about the trillion
dollar debt; a debt that Obama inherited from Bush and continued to rack up
because of the wars. I kept my mouth shut when she told me the story of her
sister being called a kike and explained that racial slur was the same as
someone calling me nigger. My mouth dropped. Yes she actual said this to my
face. As she said it I remembered my Mother firing a staff member because she
told a story and although she didn’t direct the word to Mom, she was still
fired. When she interviewed an additional Caregiver I wanted to crawl under the
table as she talked to this educated woman as if she just came out of the
African Bush. I told the young woman she was ignorant and didn’t know any
She hired the young lady. She has a beautiful name that
means precious gift from GOD. She even has a variation of her name that is a
nickname. This woman could easily call her by her nickname, but insist on
calling her a generic name that is not her name. I still kept my damn mouth
shut. Yet if we called this woman by her given name she’d be insulted. She
prefers the shortened version of her name. Maybe we should start calling her
Jew. I guess that would be just as racist.
We’ve been taught and told that we need to “go along to get
along.” I can’t help but feel a little piece of my soul is being chipped away.
In this woman’s mind I’m one those conservative, “good blacks.” By not
objecting I’ve made this woman comfortable in her racism. I’m sure Omarosa and
Ben Carson have done the same.
Maybe I’m not wearing blackface and because this woman pays
for my time she feels comfortable displaying her ignorance. But that rebel is
getting closer and closer to exploding. It’s hard to look the other way and
explain it away. She may not know any better, but pretty soon I’m going to
teach her. People like Omarosa think that because they’ve been allowed into the
house (Big House/White House) that they’re actually friends with these people.
When you’re not in the room, when you’re not around who knows what is said. I
can certainly guess. Ben Carson is a multi-millionaire that’s been put in
charge of Affordable Housing. They both have it twisted. They are only
glorified house niggers. Slaves can’t be fired. They work for free.
I’m just as wrong for not demanding this woman’s respect. I
treat her with the utmost respect and kindness. I don’t see it in return.
People like this see one set of rules for you and another for themselves. We’ve
let them get away with too much for too long. Yeah, I’ve heard her say my black
friend. I’m sure Trump refers to his black friends. They’re not our friends.
You can still be in the White House and all they see is a nigger. Ask President
I’m going to do better. We’ve fought too hard to go
backwards. We have EVERYTHING to lose. I heard light-skin was coming back in
style. Lol I just don’t want to be the new face for Stepin Fetchit. This is a
dangerous position to be in. And yes this white woman was one of the 60% that
voted for Trump. I found out a former student also voted for Trump. That scares
me even more. GOD, didn’t she learn anything from me?
Look at God!! A former coaching client referred Patrick Collins to me for my Get Ready for Greatness Executive Coaching Series. Patrick is the son of world renowned Civil Rights activist and educator Marva Collins who was portrayed by Cicely Tyson in the made-for-tv movie - The Marva Collins Story.
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MY COACHING PHILOSOPHY
When I think in terms of quality of life I immediately think in terms of success and what a successful life should look like; what I have, what I own, how free I am to play and travel. But over the years I have recognized that there have been times when, even having all these things, I was still unhappy. Why is that? How can that be? We've been trained by society to believe and be defined by a big house, nice car, great spouse, kids going to good schools, great vacations and good looks. All part of the vision we hold onto to find happiness, success and live our lives to the fullest.
We work incessantly trying to reach these goals. I have had the great fort…
I don’t usually dispense relationship advice, but I’m
not only a Certified Life Coach but certified in Relationship Counseling. After
having my own bumps in the road I began to study and assess my own mistakes.
Someone has got to have the answer. Some do. If you’re in a healthy
relationship and the work it takes to maintain your relationship seems easy
thank GOD up above. It doesn’t always happen like that. We all have our issues. Women seek men that give
them stability and support. While men look for a woman that makes them feel
good about themselves. Did she or does she make him a priority? There are some
things that men and women both want. 1.Is
this person affectionate? Do I feel loved and cared for with this person? 2.Do
we share the same values? You don’t have to agree for your moral compass to be in
I a priority? Everybody has family and other obligations, and responsibilities.
Everyone can appreciate ambition. But would you allow your job to take priority
over the perso…