Tell It To Venus is for those who still have hope in love and relationships; even in the current and often discouraging environment in which we live. An environment that appears to offer a slim chance of having a healthy and happy relationship, or any possibility of marriage. We are still encouraged. We understand how easy it is to become tired and discouraged; Tell It To Venus is here to listen.
SURVIVING THE UNTIMELY DEATH OF A LOVED ONE
Surviving the Untimely Death of a Loved One
Have you lost
someone you love dearly? Many times, these deaths come as the result of long
illnesses, but sometimes the deaths are sudden and unexpected. In either case,
grief can be overwhelming.
loved one can feel like a piece of you has been taken away. Normal day-to-day
activities require much more energy when you're grieving. Dealing
with the pain effectively can help you pick up the pieces that are left and
continue to live.
Try these methods to help with your grief and move forward:
yourself with support. Initially, you may want to be left alone with your
thoughts or you may be afraid to love anyone else again. Those
feelings are completely normal and even expected. Eventually,
though, isolating yourself can be unhelpful to yourrecovery.
•Accept the support of others. Sure,
people may sometimes say the wrong thing, but most of them sincerely want to
help. Seek companionship and be open about your feelings. When people offer to
bring you a meal or spend an evening with you, acceptit. Everyone needs support through
real. Be honest with yourself about how you feel and accept your
feelings. There's no right or wrong way to feel when you're mourning. Part of the
healing process involves you allowing your emotions, however intense, to come
yourself. Feel free to talk about your loss with your support network.
If you're not ready to discuss your feelings face to face, start a journal or
join an online community of people with similarexperiences.
of yourself. Stay as true to your daily routine as you can. Regular exercise
and good nutrition contribute to your overall emotional health. Go above
and beyond your normal nurturing routine and treat yourself to a relaxing
massage, a walk in nature, or some time to listen to soft music.
yourself. Research the topic of grief to learn the signs and strategies
for coping with it. Educating yourself on the subject can be essential to the
•As you do your research, you'll begin to understand
your feelings. You'll discover that others who have lost someone they love also
feel your feelings and you'll learn about what others have done to work throughgrief.
6.Take it one
day at a time. When you're faced with death, all you may see is a
blank wall in front of you. Looking beyond the event and imagining life without
your loved one may feel extremely challenging. Your feelings may be so
overwhelming that they cloud yourview.
•Certainly, life will never be the same, and you must
learn to adjust to living with the absence. However, there's a brighter picture
hiding behind that wall, which you'll eventually be able to see.
Have realistic expectations regarding your
progress. Grieving takes time andenergy. Pace yourself: set small goals and
celebrate milestones. Expect challenges when special holidays, anniversaries,
and birthdays roll around. But be ready to continue on your journey torecovery.
Life After the Death of a Loved one
It's common for
people who survive a loved one to feel guilty about having fun. You mayask yourself, "How dare I enjoy life
without my loved one present?" But in reality, you're not betraying your
loved done by having fun. In fact, the best way we can honor those whohave passed away is by living our lives to
Yesterday a close friend's Mother passed away. I had no words of comfort for his pain. All I could think about was who loves you like your Mother...no one.
A child preparing to be born asked God,
“They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?”
God answered, “Among the many angels, I chose one for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you.”
The child paused and again addressed God. “But tell me, here in Heaven, I don’t do anything else but sing and smile, that’s enough for me to be happy.”
“Your angel will sing for you and also smile for you every day and you will feel your angel’s love and be happy,” God replied.
“Oh,” the child said, “and how am I going to be able to understand the language that men speak?” And then, glancing at God the child asked, “What am I going to do when I want to talk to you?”
God softly touched the child on the head and said, “Your angel will place your hands together and …
For the past year (okay maybe longer, but who wants to admit that you’re hard-headed) GOD has been showing me that sometimes people, circumstances, situations, and things have to be removed before the blessing can come. It can be a painful process. Instinctively, we want to share the “BLESSING” with those we love. Take a look around..I mean a good look. Whether to your left or right, someone is not going to be there. Not because you didn’t want them to be, but because GOD had something else planned in your destiny, your DNA.
I always say that GOD doesn’t give vision without provision. Let me break it down. Ever have a dream and you try to share it with someone, but it makes no sense to them? Well, that was because it wasn’t for them. “What GOD has for me it is for me!” If GOD gave you a vision I don’t care how people try to discourage you or even duplicate it; they can’t. That’s how you know it’s yours. People may share in your vision or even participate in accomplishing your goal. …
With the state of the political climate; there is complete
unrest for anyone of color, or religion other than Christianity. Today is the
first day of Black History Month. Trump decided to make remarks acknowledging
the occasion. “Frederick Douglass has done an amazing job.” Does he even
know who Frederick Douglass was or is? I truly doubt it. He threw around a few
other names such as Dr. Martin Luther King. Does he understand that Douglass
championed abolition and women’s suffrage? Neither cause is something I think
Trump would support now; let alone the 1800’s. Douglass went from being a slave
to one of the greatest orators of his time. He has more in common with
President Obama then Trump who lacks character. It is worth noting that
Douglass married a white woman after his first wife died.He married Helen Pitts in 1884 until his
death in 1895. I don’t see Trump being a proponent of interracial marriage. He
must have misspoken as he often does. Why would today be any different?