Tell It To Venus is for those who still have hope in love and relationships; even in the current and often discouraging environment in which we live. An environment that appears to offer a slim chance of having a healthy and happy relationship, or any possibility of marriage. We are still encouraged. We understand how easy it is to become tired and discouraged; Tell It To Venus is here to listen.
SURVIVING THE UNTIMELY DEATH OF A LOVED ONE
Surviving the Untimely Death of a Loved One
Have you lost
someone you love dearly? Many times, these deaths come as the result of long
illnesses, but sometimes the deaths are sudden and unexpected. In either case,
grief can be overwhelming.
loved one can feel like a piece of you has been taken away. Normal day-to-day
activities require much more energy when you're grieving. Dealing
with the pain effectively can help you pick up the pieces that are left and
continue to live.
Try these methods to help with your grief and move forward:
yourself with support. Initially, you may want to be left alone with your
thoughts or you may be afraid to love anyone else again. Those
feelings are completely normal and even expected. Eventually,
though, isolating yourself can be unhelpful to yourrecovery.
•Accept the support of others. Sure,
people may sometimes say the wrong thing, but most of them sincerely want to
help. Seek companionship and be open about your feelings. When people offer to
bring you a meal or spend an evening with you, acceptit. Everyone needs support through
real. Be honest with yourself about how you feel and accept your
feelings. There's no right or wrong way to feel when you're mourning. Part of the
healing process involves you allowing your emotions, however intense, to come
yourself. Feel free to talk about your loss with your support network.
If you're not ready to discuss your feelings face to face, start a journal or
join an online community of people with similarexperiences.
of yourself. Stay as true to your daily routine as you can. Regular exercise
and good nutrition contribute to your overall emotional health. Go above
and beyond your normal nurturing routine and treat yourself to a relaxing
massage, a walk in nature, or some time to listen to soft music.
yourself. Research the topic of grief to learn the signs and strategies
for coping with it. Educating yourself on the subject can be essential to the
•As you do your research, you'll begin to understand
your feelings. You'll discover that others who have lost someone they love also
feel your feelings and you'll learn about what others have done to work throughgrief.
6.Take it one
day at a time. When you're faced with death, all you may see is a
blank wall in front of you. Looking beyond the event and imagining life without
your loved one may feel extremely challenging. Your feelings may be so
overwhelming that they cloud yourview.
•Certainly, life will never be the same, and you must
learn to adjust to living with the absence. However, there's a brighter picture
hiding behind that wall, which you'll eventually be able to see.
Have realistic expectations regarding your
progress. Grieving takes time andenergy. Pace yourself: set small goals and
celebrate milestones. Expect challenges when special holidays, anniversaries,
and birthdays roll around. But be ready to continue on your journey torecovery.
Life After the Death of a Loved one
It's common for
people who survive a loved one to feel guilty about having fun. You mayask yourself, "How dare I enjoy life
without my loved one present?" But in reality, you're not betraying your
loved done by having fun. In fact, the best way we can honor those whohave passed away is by living our lives to
Yesterday a close friend's Mother passed away. I had no words of comfort for his pain. All I could think about was who loves you like your Mother...no one.
A child preparing to be born asked God,
“They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?”
God answered, “Among the many angels, I chose one for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you.”
The child paused and again addressed God. “But tell me, here in Heaven, I don’t do anything else but sing and smile, that’s enough for me to be happy.”
“Your angel will sing for you and also smile for you every day and you will feel your angel’s love and be happy,” God replied.
“Oh,” the child said, “and how am I going to be able to understand the language that men speak?” And then, glancing at God the child asked, “What am I going to do when I want to talk to you?”
God softly touched the child on the head and said, “Your angel will place your hands together and …
Look at God!! A former coaching client referred Patrick Collins to me for my Get Ready for Greatness Executive Coaching Series. Patrick is the son of world renowned Civil Rights activist and educator Marva Collins who was portrayed by Cicely Tyson in the made-for-tv movie - The Marva Collins Story.
After the first few coaching sessions, Patrick presented me with the honor of editing his new book - Learning Curve; Living in the shadow of Marvin Collins. He and I are now joining forces by combining my work in early childhood music education with his international early childhood education advocacy effort. He has agreed to serve as chairman of our board as we create the Marva Collins Foundation and the Marva Collins Early Childhood Education Scholarship Fund. The Marva Collins Foundation will be operating out of Chicago, IL where I am now opening a second office for CTI Marketing and the Marva Collins Scholarship will become part of our Cora Lee Cuff Fund here in Jacksonville, FL…
Today is my birthday and I’m grateful for another year. Last Sunday I saw the culmination of my daughter’s hard work and got to see her receive her Pharm.D. What a beautiful thing. The only thing that would have made it better would have been my Mother being able to attend. If I had the means I would gladly give everyone that contributed to her success a million dollars! From the professors, to her best friend, to the Manley family who allowed her to live in their home as part of their family for the past year; I’m so grateful.
I would like a few things for my birthday. Things that are tangible and intangible. Thank you GOD for today. Thank you for another year.
Veela’s Birthday Wish List 2012
1.Stop judging your life on what you use to be and start to see things as GOD has prepared you for NOW!
2.I will walk in my Season (in my purpose). I’m finally ready.
3.I will take the time to love on myself and not just outside of myself.
4.I will follow the path GOD has made for me; living my…