IF YOUR VAGINA IS THE ANSWER WHAT IN THE HECK WAS THE QUESTION?!!


 

 
I’m making it prettier than it was said to me. I believe the word used was twat. Man how many slang words are there for the vagina? Let’s see there is pussy, kitty cat, sally, coochie, vajay-jay, honey pot, flower, hoo-haa, and my personal favorite the abyss. I never called it anything but vagina because growing up my Mother always gave me the proper names for EVERYTHING. I didn’t pee-pee, I urinated. I didn’t poo-poo. I defecated. It wasn’t until I brought my illustrated children’s book “Where Do Babies Come From?” to show and tell that I realized not everyone was given this information. It was very clear early on when I attended Montessori school that my Mother couldn’t just fill me with fairytales of the stork or any other fable that parents gladly share with their children. One of my friends was the son of an obstetrician and you can bet he couldn’t wait to tell me how babies were made.

When I heard my friend make this statement I knew I had to put my thoughts to paper. It would elicit all types of warped visions in my head. Is it that guttural? Have we made something so beautiful deformed and just plain ugly? What was beautiful has now become a weapon of mass destruction. Exaggerated? Not really. Life and death have been decided because of a woman. Men have killed over the thought of what lies between our legs. Wars have been fought. Battles have been won. When there was victory the men quickly went home with the first thought of being alone with their wives and their girlfriends.

There is power in the pussy. Yeah, I said it. It’s the very thing that can make a man run home and the thought of her sharing that flower with anyone else can make him quickly go away. There is a thin line between pleasure and pain. This intimate vessel can give unbridled pleasure yet we bear children through the pain.

Let’s go back to the question. No, let’s go back to the answer. Vagina. I know plenty of women that use their vagina as a weapon. Do what I want you to and you have unlimited access. Do something I don’t like and you can forget about ever seeing it. Husbands know when you’re banned from the bedroom and relegated to the couch or the guest room what that means. It means no access for you. It means this is how I control you. Many of us (not just men) have entered a whole new level of stupidity based on when or if we were going to have sex. Love making is a whole other level…..we’ll discuss that later.

We, ourselves pretend we don’t use that as a means of control. Who is more disillusioned? Men or women? I’m sure there are those that would argue that men use their penises as weapons too. But it’s not the same. Women somehow have the power to walk away that men don’t. Just by the numbers there are more men having sex than women.

What was an act of love has become calculated and controlled. I don’t see anything wrong with waiting to be intimate. But I’ve also been in a relationship where the passion was palpable; like the air we breathe. We both were insatiable. There was never enough. But my vagina was never a negotiating tool.

If you are using what GOD gave you to show love as a means of control then maybe you’re asking the wrong question. Or maybe you just have the wrong answer? If things aren’t going the way you want in your relationship or you want things to be different; your vagina is not the answer. Go back to the beginning and figure out the question you should be asking yourself.

 "Sex is easy. Try love."

*Veela Ammons is a Life Coach and Spiritual Advisor that believes her purpose is to help you let of the past, embrace the future and learn to live in the moment. Please go to www.transformationsbyveela.com for more information.

 
















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