Tell It To Venus is for those who still have hope in love and relationships; even in the current and often discouraging environment in which we live. An environment that appears to offer a slim chance of having a healthy and happy relationship, or any possibility of marriage. We are still encouraged. We understand how easy it is to become tired and discouraged; Tell It To Venus is here to listen.
IF YOUR VAGINA IS THE ANSWER WHAT IN THE HECK WAS THE QUESTION?!!
it prettier than it was said to me. I believe the word used was twat. Man how
many slang words are there for the vagina? Let’s see there is pussy, kitty cat,
sally, coochie, vajay-jay, honey pot, flower, hoo-haa, and my personal favorite
the abyss. I never called it anything but vagina because growing up my Mother
always gave me the proper names for EVERYTHING. I didn’t pee-pee, I urinated. I
didn’t poo-poo. I defecated. It wasn’t until I brought my illustrated children’s
book “Where Do Babies Come From?” to show and tell that I realized not everyone
was given this information. It was very clear early on when I attended Montessori
school that my Mother couldn’t just fill me with fairytales of the stork or any
other fable that parents gladly share with their children. One of my friends
was the son of an obstetrician and you can bet he couldn’t wait to tell me how
babies were made.
When I heard
my friend make this statement I knew I had to put my thoughts to paper. It would
elicit all types of warped visions in my head. Is it that guttural? Have we
made something so beautiful deformed and just plain ugly? What was beautiful
has now become a weapon of mass destruction. Exaggerated? Not really. Life and
death have been decided because of a woman. Men have killed over the thought of
what lies between our legs. Wars have been fought. Battles have been won. When
there was victory the men quickly went home with the first thought of being alone
with their wives and their girlfriends.
power in the pussy. Yeah, I said it. It’s the very thing that can make a man
run home and the thought of her sharing that flower with anyone else can make
him quickly go away. There is a thin line between pleasure and pain. This
intimate vessel can give unbridled pleasure yet we bear children through the
back to the question. No, let’s go back to the answer. Vagina. I know plenty of
women that use their vagina as a weapon. Do what I want you to and you have
unlimited access. Do something I don’t like and you can forget about ever
seeing it. Husbands know when you’re banned from the bedroom and relegated to
the couch or the guest room what that means. It means no access for you. It
means this is how I control you. Many of us (not just men) have entered a whole
new level of stupidity based on when or if we were going to have sex. Love
making is a whole other level…..we’ll discuss that later.
ourselves pretend we don’t use that as a means of control. Who is more
disillusioned? Men or women? I’m sure there are those that would argue that men
use their penises as weapons too. But it’s not the same. Women somehow have the
power to walk away that men don’t. Just by the numbers there are more men
having sex than women.
What was an
act of love has become calculated and controlled. I don’t see anything wrong
with waiting to be intimate. But I’ve also been in a relationship where the
passion was palpable; like the air we breathe. We both were insatiable. There
was never enough. But my vagina was never a negotiating tool.
If you are
using what GOD gave you to show love as a means of control then maybe you’re
asking the wrong question. Or maybe you just have the wrong answer? If things
aren’t going the way you want in your relationship or you want things to be
different; your vagina is not the answer. Go back to the beginning and figure
out the question you should be asking yourself.
"Sex is easy. Try love."
Ammons is a Life Coach and Spiritual Advisor that believes her purpose is to
help you let of the past, embrace the future and learn to live in the moment.
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When I think in terms of quality of life I immediately think in terms of success and what a successful life should look like; what I have, what I own, how free I am to play and travel. But over the years I have recognized that there have been times when, even having all these things, I was still unhappy. Why is that? How can that be? We've been trained by society to believe and be defined by a big house, nice car, great spouse, kids going to good schools, great vacations and good looks. All part of the vision we hold onto to find happiness, success and live our lives to the fullest.
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not only a Certified Life Coach but certified in Relationship Counseling. After
having my own bumps in the road I began to study and assess my own mistakes.
Someone has got to have the answer. Some do. If you’re in a healthy
relationship and the work it takes to maintain your relationship seems easy
thank GOD up above. It doesn’t always happen like that. We all have our issues. Women seek men that give
them stability and support. While men look for a woman that makes them feel
good about themselves. Did she or does she make him a priority? There are some
things that men and women both want. 1.Is
this person affectionate? Do I feel loved and cared for with this person? 2.Do
we share the same values? You don’t have to agree for your moral compass to be in
I a priority? Everybody has family and other obligations, and responsibilities.
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