Tell It To Venus is for those who still have hope in love and relationships; even in the current and often discouraging environment in which we live. An environment that appears to offer a slim chance of having a healthy and happy relationship, or any possibility of marriage. We are still encouraged. We understand how easy it is to become tired and discouraged; Tell It To Venus is here to listen.
OWNING MY SEXUALITY
and got challenged today about my boundaries. It hurt to hear it. I was
questioned about my boundaries and the conversation I had. Why did I say that?
Was I bragging about my sexual prowess? Yes. Was it inappropriate? Yes. Was I
interested in the man I said it to? Yes. Looking back was it the most
ridiculous thing I could have said? Yes, yes and yes to all of the above! I
made a mistake and now I’m paying for it. I had to question myself and wonder
why I did it.
I didn’t have an answer until now. As a child I have been molested. Contrary to
what people think sexualizing a child doesn’t make them empowered sexually. It
does quite the opposite. I have been broken and weakened through that
experience. What followed having to fight off my own relatives? It became a vicious
relationship was about having sex because I thought it would keep him with me.
He left. It did nothing. Then the most serious relationship after my divorce
was about us breaking up, but him moving on and thinking I would be okay with
him now being married and wanting to continue to have sex with me. I said no.
Even though he has reached out to me at some difficult times I have not even
allowed him to have my phone number.
I had to
assess myself and I now have an answer. Being a girl, being a woman we are taught
early on to be submissive and we allow whatever happens to happen to us. We
have no choice in the decision. I am so much more than a sexual being, but I feel
I needed/need to take back my power. Looking back I see what I said was not
about my sexual prowess. It was about me feeling in control and knowing I have
control of my own sexuality not any man; not anyone who took advantage of me or
my sexuality. I’m talking as if it’s separate from me, a completely different
entity. Maybe it is. I am admitting to anyone who reads this and to myself that
I lack sexual maturity.
just as someone took advantage of me I have used my sexuality to control people
and situations because I didn’t know any better. That’s the immaturity talking.
I want better. I’m learning better. Sex without love leaves you cold. Love
without sex can leave your soul empty. I want a mature love that only comes
when you share the sex and love in a committed relationship. Something I haven’t
experienced before. Sex is not love, but then again love is not sex. But the
balance of the two working in harmony could be a beautiful thing.
Look at God!! A former coaching client referred Patrick Collins to me for my Get Ready for Greatness Executive Coaching Series. Patrick is the son of world renowned Civil Rights activist and educator Marva Collins who was portrayed by Cicely Tyson in the made-for-tv movie - The Marva Collins Story.
After the first few coaching sessions, Patrick presented me with the honor of editing his new book - Learning Curve; Living in the shadow of Marvin Collins. He and I are now joining forces by combining my work in early childhood music education with his international early childhood education advocacy effort. He has agreed to serve as chairman of our board as we create the Marva Collins Foundation and the Marva Collins Early Childhood Education Scholarship Fund. The Marva Collins Foundation will be operating out of Chicago, IL where I am now opening a second office for CTI Marketing and the Marva Collins Scholarship will become part of our Cora Lee Cuff Fund here in Jacksonville, FL…
Yesterday a close friend's Mother passed away. I had no words of comfort for his pain. All I could think about was who loves you like your Mother...no one.
A child preparing to be born asked God,
“They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?”
God answered, “Among the many angels, I chose one for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you.”
The child paused and again addressed God. “But tell me, here in Heaven, I don’t do anything else but sing and smile, that’s enough for me to be happy.”
“Your angel will sing for you and also smile for you every day and you will feel your angel’s love and be happy,” God replied.
“Oh,” the child said, “and how am I going to be able to understand the language that men speak?” And then, glancing at God the child asked, “What am I going to do when I want to talk to you?”
God softly touched the child on the head and said, “Your angel will place your hands together and …
I don’t usually dispense relationship advice, but I’m
not only a Certified Life Coach but certified in Relationship Counseling. After
having my own bumps in the road I began to study and assess my own mistakes.
Someone has got to have the answer. Some do. If you’re in a healthy
relationship and the work it takes to maintain your relationship seems easy
thank GOD up above. It doesn’t always happen like that. We all have our issues. Women seek men that give
them stability and support. While men look for a woman that makes them feel
good about themselves. Did she or does she make him a priority? There are some
things that men and women both want. 1.Is
this person affectionate? Do I feel loved and cared for with this person? 2.Do
we share the same values? You don’t have to agree for your moral compass to be in
I a priority? Everybody has family and other obligations, and responsibilities.
Everyone can appreciate ambition. But would you allow your job to take priority
over the perso…