DO AS I SAY, NOT AS I DO
Garcelle Beauvais stated: “Certain things are just too overt for kids. I love Beyoncé. I love her. I think she’s beautiful and talented. But, I think there has to be a fine line where you have to take responsibility for what you do. I think it’s good to be sexy, but sexy can come across in so many different ways. It doesn’t have to be everything showing, out grinding all of the time.”
Yesterday I read an article in reference to Beyoncé and whether or not she is too sexually overt in her performance and her attire. We live in an age where Hannah Montana is dead and Miley Cyrus has been resurrected as an over the top tramp. Yes I said it. Her music is no longer for pubescent pre-teens that were her bread and butter. She has been attacked by parents who idiotically took their children to her concert. Miley Cyrus herself issued a parental advisory warning for her concert.
I say all this to go back to the music and the costumes that Beyoncé is currently promoting. Beyoncé has said she embraces a more sensual side. “I don’t at all have any shame about being sexual. And I’m not embarrassed about it, and I don’t feel like I have to protect that side of me. Because I do believe that sexuality is a power that we all have.”
I haven’t listened to her new CD so I can’t comment on the sexuality or explicit lyrics of the music. From Destiney’s Child to her solo career; Beyoncé has always dressed provocatively onstage. Earlier this year she took some criticism for a sexy performance with her husband. I personally liked it. And I liked it more because it was a glimpse into her sexy relationship with her husband.
Before there was a Madonna there was a Cher. Before there was a Miley there was a Britney. And way before there was a Beyoncé there was a Donna Summer. How quickly we forget. We live in a society where there are no boundaries. We have crossed a line and there’s no coming back. It’s all about the shock value. Gratefully we have freedom of expression. I may not agree with your opinions, but I will defend your right to say it or express it. With this freedom comes the responsibility that too many don’t want to take on, parenting. Too many are quick to criticize the artist, the rapper, the performer, but unaware of what their child listens to or watches. Take out the explicit language of any Lil Wayne or Tupac song and you have the words of a poet. Some of the most profound words I’ve heard came from the genius of Tupac.
It is not the responsibility of Jay Z, Beyoncé, Lil Wayne, or Miley Cyrus to monitor what your children are exposed to. Nor is it the responsibility of anyone else but you. You can do everything right and it still may not be enough. A good friend had a scare with his son recently. After being bullied at school he and his friend retaliated by producing a video threatening this kid. They created music and special effects for the video. Although they used a prop gun in the video it was cause for all involved to be suspended from school and reported to the authorities. This is from a Father who does homework with his son, attends every game and involves him in extra-curricular activities. I know my friend was heartbroken about this, but this is no reflection on him as a parent.
I take offense to Ms. Beauvais’ comments because I think it’s a contradiction in terms. She posed for Playboy and although it’s an adult publication we all know that anyone can access these pictures. Beyoncé is the consummate performer and has always been. She has always had a sexy persona and I don’t see that changing. I find insulting that Ms. Beauvais will judge Beyoncé for a Grammy performance, but Ms. Knowles has never posed nude. There will always be explicit lyrics. There are performers who go beyond the constraints of modesty or class. Sometimes less is more. Only you can judge what is appropriate and inappropriate for your child. But I don’t want anyone censoring what I see or hear. The choice is mine. The world requires parents to parent their children and make their own decisions. Next time you want to pass judgment on someone be sure your house is clean.
“By judging others, you make yourself easy to judge.” ― Ashly Lorenzana
DRUNK IN LOVE by Beyoncé