A SPIRITUAL THANG
Before I delve into my thoughts and opinions; let me start by saying that relationships should be a place of rest, acceptance, and not a place of fear. They should be our refuge. A place we reveal our true selves to one another and enjoy true intimacy that reveals our soul’s identity. So many of us have become tattered and torn from previous relationships. Imperfect parents. Imperfect past experiences. All culminating to where we are. How did we completely separate sexuality from spirituality?
We can’t have a healthy spirituality and healthy relationships without a healthy sexuality. Sexuality is about our relationship to ourselves and how we relate to one another as men and women; both physically and emotionally. Our relationship with ourselves goes beyond our genitals to every aspect of our lives; from our body and mind to how others relate to us as a physical and spiritual being. We have to reconcile the spiritual and sexual to enjoy a healthy relationship. It sets us apart yet binds us together. It allows us to procreate as GOD designed.
We act as if sex is an enemy of the spirit. It is actually an ally. Have you ever been so intimate and connected with someone that you knew this was GOD in the physical? To liberate ourselves, become whole we have to unhook the chains of guilt, shame and repression to understand sexuality is natural, healthy, and even a sacred part of life. That’s why it’s so crucial in who you expose your sexuality and sensuality to….they become a part of your DNA. They are forever connected to you physically and spiritually.
When your relationship to yourself is damaged or repressed we have little to none to give to someone else. True intimacy is about being you and allowing someone to do the same. It’s about feeling secure enough to reveal the truth to ourselves and others. Embracing spirituality and sexuality is the first step to true intimacy.
What’s the big secret? Sexual energy conducts creative energy. Where we feel attraction, arousal, passion, inspiration, creativity, there is sexual energy at work. Sexual desire is sacred and chaste. The suppression of sexual energy is destructive and false. As I said before, there is a union between flesh and spirit. Bliss, carefreeness, playfulness are all the essence of good sex. With good sex there is laughter and love all mixed in. Nothing draws you closer than when you can laugh with your lover…share a joke that only you two know.
The most loving thing you can do is be intimate. Sex is about being connected to someone else’s needs and your own body. People who repress their sexuality tend to repress in other areas of their life and don’t see the spiritual connection in sexuality. GOD created sex for procreation and our pleasure. Religion is about controlling behavior. Spirituality is about liberating and exploring consciousness. You can’t take a spiritual journey without acknowledging we are sexual beings. There is no shame or guilt in being who we are….sexuality and all. Know all of yourself, every side of yourself. Perhaps as we reconnect with our bodies, our hearts, our souls and one another we will indeed create a world that can live in greater harmony and peace. Sex is a spiritual thang.