ACT LIKE A MAN - GET TREATED LIKE A MAN
It’s not easy being a black man in today’s society. It ain’t easy being a woman either. We are expected to be strong, independent, and the breadwinner. Not an easy task for anyone. Because there are so many single-parent homes now headed by women we’ve began to take on roles we didn’t choose. There is confusion in our roles. You’ve got mama’s boys that are now living this entitled life. Why? You have female dominated homes where their mother has raised them with this sense of entitlement. There are young women who have little respect for men due to the lack of interaction with their fathers. If you haven’t been raised by a man how would you possible recognize him?
There was an incident in Ohio that received massive media attention and made me contemplate why any young woman would have the audacity to mistreat a man and not fear retribution. This young woman went on the attack without cause. It wasn’t about the bus driver. I believe there was hostility towards men in general that she was harboring. It didn’t matter what this man did that day. In her mind I believe he represented ALL men. He stated later that if she was going to attack him like a man he was going to defend himself like a man. The lines of decency were crossed long before this incident. If you’ve never been around a man or been taught what his role is or should be; would you have a clue. You may have a mother, but if she never required you to show women respect how could you know? I think this young woman had the disadvantage of a fatherless home. If she did have interaction with a male figure was it positive? Men are no longer asked or required to treat women with the chivalry and etiquette we once had. But if you don’t require it why would you expect it?
Respect is something earned not automatically given. We have some strong and wonderful mothers. It doesn’t have to be to the exclusion of good men. I don’t profess to have the answer for this dilemma. But from my own experience my Mother never let anyone talk ill of my Father. I was never given derogatory information about my Dad. I was taught that he deserved respect because he was my Father; if for no other reason. When he was broke and didn’t have a dime to send for me my Mother put the money together, and I was never told different. She never threw that in his face. He never was financially stable so my Mother never pressed him on child support. He may have not had the means, but I never doubted that my Father loved me.
I wouldn’t be here without my Father. Something we tend to forget. Gender doesn’t dictate strength or independence, but there is a lack of respect for brothers, our sons that I am completely frustrated with. Being a single-mother doesn’t mean there can’t be balance. I applaud you for being a good woman, but don’t let that preclude you from including good men in your children’s lives.
Society is no longer one of the gentile woman or the cultured reserved gentleman. With the lack of mutual respect expect more of these incidents. Unfortunately, it’s a double-edged sword for men being raised by single mothers. There are a lot of young men that were never told not to hit a woman. In fact, most feel we should take care of them because that’s what their mothers did. Women are so busy pacifying their sons that they are no longer required to grow up and be men. Mutual combat, lack of respect are all contributing factors to women acting out and getting treated as men. Being a confrontational woman expect a man to respond as if you’re one. You no longer get a pass for being a woman. Act like a lady think like a man? Act like a woman and think and respect others as a fellow human being.