WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO ASK FOR WHAT THEY WANT! (NO MORE HEAD GAMES)

"Women are taught to play games and be coy. So no you won't get a direct answer. We are complicated. Hard to figure us out when most don't know themselves." ~ Veela aka Venus (Facebook status)



My first book, "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking" and my second paperback, "Upfront and Straightforward: Let the Manipulative Game Players Know What You're REALLY Thinking" were motivated by the first two of your four comments in your status.

To be fair, men engage in and employ manipulative "head games" too, so it's not exclusively women who are manipulative. How does one know when they are dealing with a person who is manipulative and into 'head games'?

1) Manipulative people like to use vague, ambiguous, and enigmatic language;
2) Manipulative people do not like to give direct, straight-to-the-point responses; They do not like to say, "Yes, I am interested in XYZ," or "No, I am not interested in XYZ." They would rather use phrases like, "Well ... I'm not sure ... let me think about it ... and see how I feel about it later!" In other words, they like to talk a lot, but they don't really communicate anything
3) Liars and manipulative game players are primarily guided by fear and/or spoiled egos; They have a profound fear of not getting what they want from people, or they have a fear of being criticized for being too forward about their desires, interests, and intentions. Also, liars and manipulative game players have a bad habit of not admitting that they ultimately want to "have their cake and eat it too"

People who are honest, direct, and non-manipulative tend to a) not waste their time with those who don't share the same desires, interests, and intentions that they have and b) avoid leaving people feeling angry, frustrated, and/or bitter because of being lied to or feeling misled or "strung along".

We all want something. No one interacts with others "just because." At any given point in time, we either want something tangible (e.g., sex, money, employment, food, companionship, etc.) or something intangible (e.g., love, attention, respect, popularity, laughter, etc.). The key to effective and mutually beneficial communication is to LET OTHERS KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT, and DON'T APOLOGIZE about being straightforward about what you want. Either someone is going to give you what you want, or they are not. If they do not, you have to be a mature adult and accept that....

Any other wisdom about this issue can be found in my books!! ;-)

http://www.amazon.com/​Alan-Roger-Currie/e/​B002BLQ9Q0

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