WIFE? OR JUMPOFF WITH A RING?
I had never contemplated exactly what that would mean. Can you imagine being married to a woman who still is operating as a gold-digger/jumpoff? Imagine you've committed your life to someone who:
1.Isn't committed to a relationship unless it benefits them.
2.Looking for the next best thing.
3.Always scouting for who might have something better.
4.Would never stay in a marriage if the husband could not provide the lifestyle they're accustomed to.
These athletes and entertainers think they have it all figured out. There are some professional men that seem to feel the same. Remember that girl that stuck with you when nobody knew your name or cared? How quickly they forget. Don't believe the hype. When you do you play yourself. You can't make a hoe a housewife. What makes you think that the woman who was so willing to sleep with you while you were on the road is the same one that you should commit to before GOD? How many times do we read about the celebrity that falls in love on set, or marries the jumpoff/mistress? It never ends well. Remember Usher and Tameka, Tiki Barber, Brad and Angelina...okay well maybe that's the exception.
People are so quick to forget that an affair is usually fantasy. In any affair there's no consequences (not that you're thinking of), no bills to be paid, no screaming kids, absolutely no reality. A jumpoff is always willing and waiting. She never asks where you're going or where you've been. You don't argue. And you owe them nothing except what you decide to give them. She's perfect. Who wouldn't want that? Who can compete with that? That's the trick. Anyone who is or has been in a committed relationship knows it takes W-O-R-K! What usually happens is the man gets complacent or maybe even bored; finds a newer more attractive model than the first wife or first love. Very rarely does the man marry the jumpoff as his first wife. If he does it doesn't last long. This is usually the jumpoff that made it her business to at least get pregnant with the prodigal child, or should I say meal ticket. Nowadays, pregnancy doesn't mean marriage.
Since we're on the subject let's talk about some examples. There is a celebrity who purports himself as a "relationship expert." This is the same man that has "changed" and is now on his 4th or 5th marriage. He upgrades every few years. What was funny is that he and the last ex put their divorce and court battle on display. Not sure if the ex qualified for wife or jumpoff with a ring. There's another who married and met his wife close to the time he was drafted to the NBA. There have been rumors for years that she had an old boyfriend she kept during the marriage. Even though she signed a pre-nup she ended up with one of the biggest divorce settlements ever. We all have seen the articles about Usher and his ex. I personally would qualify her as a jumpoff with a ring. Don't quote me. I'm the one that thought he should have stayed with Chilli.
Wow! I almost forgot the best example of marrying a jumpoff ever, O.J. Simpson! Tell me Nicole wasn't the classic jumpoff with a ring. We all know how that turned out.
Bottom-line, you don't marry the jumpoff! They're a jumpoff for a reason. I always say that the lack of respect and regard you show to another woman shows the lack of respect the woman has for herself. There's a certain amount of disrespect we can assume if you're a mistress, trick, or jumpoff. When you have no concern for someone's family, marriage, or relationship it shows your character, or lack there of. You may have not finished and had closure with your previous relationship, but don't assume that you're exclusive with them. For all you know they may have someone on the side you're helping to finance. Don't commit to a jumpoff unless you go in knowing it may not last, or you deal with the reality. A jumpoff could be the very reason you want to jump off a cliff.
"When a person with money meets a person with experience, the person with the experience winds up with the money and the person with the money winds up with the experience." ~ Harvey MacKay
Hey, you get what you pay for....most of the time.