Showing posts from May, 2012


Women spend a lot of time doing their due diligence for their career and business, but spend no time on understanding who they’re dating. So after thinking about this premise I’m sure I’ve found a solution. Attached is an Employment Application that has been altered to address the information we all should know from prospective love connections. Don’t be embarrassed if you’re in a relationship now and don’t have this information. Maybe now is the time to ask for your significant other to fill out this application?

1. First Name Middle Name Last Name

Okay let’s be honest. How many of us know the legal name of our significant other? I myself dated a guy who had a really cool name, but later found out his government name was Albert. Lol Do you know his or her last name? Last thing you want to find out is that they are a criminal, or possibly related to you.

2. Permanent Address: How long have you lived there? Rent or Own

If he lives with his wife and kids th…


By Marcus Osborne, Dudeologist -Founder/CEO on Tuesday, October 25, 2011


Honesty is all they were asking. When GalTime asked if I’d be interested in working with them, they made it clear that they expected me to adhere to that core principal of honesty from a guy’s perspective when it comes to love, sex, dating and relationships.

That realness hasn’t always been met with bouquets. Guys were mad at me when I opened the playbook here. Women were left in bitter disbelief when I blew up their favorite “guyisms” here. And I was called every vile name in the book by everyone when I touched on the topic of virginity.

Wow. That one actually exposed me to a lot of R-rated colorful language!

But it all goes back to the basic StraightMaleFriend principal of open and honest communication between the Marstians & Venetians – even if that means some vehement disagreement. So with that, I present to you this list of 10 things most guys at …


Today is my birthday and I’m grateful for another year. Last Sunday I saw the culmination of my daughter’s hard work and got to see her receive her Pharm.D. What a beautiful thing. The only thing that would have made it better would have been my Mother being able to attend. If I had the means I would gladly give everyone that contributed to her success a million dollars! From the professors, to her best friend, to the Manley family who allowed her to live in their home as part of their family for the past year; I’m so grateful.

I would like a few things for my birthday. Things that are tangible and intangible. Thank you GOD for today. Thank you for another year.

Veela’s Birthday Wish List 2012
1.Stop judging your life on what you use to be and start to see things as GOD has prepared you for NOW!
2.I will walk in my Season (in my purpose). I’m finally ready.
3.I will take the time to love on myself and not just outside of myself.
4.I will follow the path GOD has made for me; living my…


Women offer other women an incredible amount of uninformed advice, misinformation and mythology about what motivates men whether they’re single, married, or in a long-term relationship. This was the impetus behind With all due respect, women simply don’t know as much about men as they think they do. And of course us poor guys know zilch about women.

Truth be told, I actually reached out to a handful of guys to guest write for SMF and the general response was, “What? Hell no! I’m not gonna be the one givin’ up the secrets!” So you see? Your SMF’s are risking permanent expulsion from the “Man Club” by giving up the goods here. But we’ve got a job to do!

To that end, we decided to tackle some fairly persistent man-myths. Now certainly there are exceptions to every rule. And, of course, you’ll have either experienced or have heard anecdotal stories that run contrary to your SMF’s perspectives. That said, here are:

The Top 5 Myths Women STILL Believe About Men

1.He …


Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?



“Veela Faye that’s the most exercise you’ve done the whole time,” said with a laugh from a completely self-assured soon-to-be Father. We had it all figured out. I was in my doctor Linda’s office. I was convinced that we were going to have a natural child birth for the good of our baby. Did I say “we”? Man that hurt like hell.

“Well, it’s like pressure,” that’s what she told me. My sweet Mom lied to me. Why did she lie?

Weeks before I had burst into tears telling my Mother, “What if I have the baby and I don’t know what to do with it?” This is when she assured me I would somehow miraculously know. I found out later that my Mother thought I’d be overwhelmed if I knew the truth.

My doctor had decided that due to me being dilated for some time we would induce labor. I walked around the birthing room trying to help the process while Terry laughed his ass off. He was entertaining as usual. He could and can always make me laugh. We waited for labor to kick in. During that time Mom called m…


There's something modest and old-fashioned about flirting. It can be very innocent and it's a great way to get someone's attention and still be subtle. I found this article on and thought it was worth sharing. Some of you need to learn how to flirt without being disrespectful or too aggressive, or just plain nasty. lol ~Venus

Learn to recognize the signs of flirting.

Whether you're dating right now or just shopping around for a fun time or relationships, you should learn to recognize the signs of flirting. This goes for both girls and boys; when you can recognize the signs of flirting, you know the right things to do and not do as well.

The most obvious sign of flirting for girls is the eye glance. Here's how it goes: she's looking at you when you see her, but she quickly glances away. While you're still watching her, she looks up again to see if you're still watching. When you see this, you can be almost certain that it's ti…


I had never contemplated exactly what that would mean. Can you imagine being married to a woman who still is operating as a gold-digger/jumpoff? Imagine you've committed your life to someone who:

1.Isn't committed to a relationship unless it benefits them.

2.Looking for the next best thing.

3.Always scouting for who might have something better.

4.Would never stay in a marriage if the husband could not provide the lifestyle they're accustomed to.

These athletes and entertainers think they have it all figured out. There are some professional men that seem to feel the same. Remember that girl that stuck with you when nobody knew your name or cared? How quickly they forget. Don't believe the hype. When you do you play yourself. You can't make a hoe a housewife. What makes you think that the woman who was so willing to sleep with you while you were on the road is the same one that you should commit to before GOD? How many times do we read about the celebrity that…