I DON’T WANT TO THINK LIKE A MAN!
Steve Harvey’s movie is coming out soon. I read ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN a few years ago, but I have to disagree with my brother. Just like a woman can’t tell you how to be a man; a man can’t tell you how to be a woman. GOD made us in HIS image. We were made from Adam’s rib so that man would not be alone. We weren’t meant to be alone. As I look back on what I read I see that Mr. Harvey mapped out a strategy. I never learned to play chess. Maybe if I was a chess player I could appreciate the map of a strategist. Don’t get me wrong. I am a sore loser. I don’t like to lose, but if love is a game I’d rather not play.
Years ago there was a book written by two white women called THE RULES. How is this completely different? He’s Black. Okay I get that. And he’s a man. So? So how does this help me? I’m glad to be a woman. What about a book addressing how to be the best woman I can be? When Steve Harvey can tell me about being a Black woman we can talk. Not every man is the same. Not every Black man has had the same experiences. It’s not that simple. Just like men can’t always figure women out; women don’t pretend to have men figured out. If we did there would be a lot more successful relationships and more marriages. The rate of infidelity and divorce would be on the decline. Right now I’m just not seeing it.
I don’t pretend that I have it figured out. If I did I wouldn’t be divorced, and I would be in a relationship. I’m not going to settle, but I’m getting tired of people telling me their experience and thinking it’s mine. I’m not arrogant enough to think that we have shared the same experiences. It’s a wonderful thing when you connect with likeminded people who share your values, and in rare cases, your experiences. That doesn’t happen that frequently.
No offense, I can appreciate someone sharing their life experience and telling me what worked for them, but to make blanket statements about all men and all women is reckless. If you think I’m hating on Steve think again. I appreciate his testimony and what he’s accomplished. Just because I’ve cheated doesn’t make me an expert on why all men cheat. That’s like saying if someone is a liar they are an expert in teaching you to lie. This doesn’t make sense, but it’s obviously making money. More power to you Steve.
If a man meets a woman he’s interested in why can’t it be about what they have in common? Do they share the same beliefs? Start with the basics. Do you believe in GOD? If a woman is dependent on a set of rules and guidelines (and timeline) that she’s read that would concern me. I’m not saying that Mr. Harvey doesn’t offer good advice, but he’s touting what has worked for him. Doesn’t mean it works for everybody. Trust me. I know.
PS I’m sure I will support his movie.