Corrie Ten Boom, a Christian woman who survived a Nazi concentration camp during the Holocaust, said, "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you."
I have found out the hard way that forgiveness is for me; not the person I’m forgiving. It’s a hard lesson, but one we continually learn. There’s not a day that doesn’t require the lesson be applied. Someone cuts you off in traffic. Who has time for road rage? I’m a stickler about politeness and etiquette. These are lost art forms. Please and thank you just don’t happen.
I’m not so worried about the niceties, but basic human kindness. Something we seem to lack in today’s society. People look me dead in my face when I’m walking down the street. When I acknowledge them with a hello it’s returned with the most hateful look. You would think I did something to them. Kindness cost you nothing. What’s wrong with a hello or even a smile? Pleasantries don’t happen anymore. Remember when your Mom said to stop making that face or it would freeze that way? Too late. Lol
I’ve always heard it said that the sweetest revenge is success. Some of us are so consumed with one-upping others that it is our complete focus. I’m not even sure you’re following your true calling. You’re more concerned with having more. This doesn’t make for a fulfilled life. I have friends and people I know that give the illusion of having it all. Some do. Others; it’s a lot more complicated. Peace of mind and your health are priceless. I can’t say these people have either one.
I don’t require a lot, but my goals are to ensure a legacy for my daughter, and make sure my family is taken care of. This is my key to happiness. I can be pretty easygoing, but mess with my daughter or my family and my temper flares. I had an incident happen recently where I was giving my car to my daughter to complete her Pharmacy rotation. Took a little bit to get things straight, but I found myself angry when the car was towed and booted for tickets someone else had gotten. Tried to do a favor for someone and sold them a car; which they never paid for. Unfortunately for me; they had gotten several tickets that I was unaware of dating back to 2007. When did me doing you a favor become an entitlement? When I tried to contact them to resolve the discrepancy I got nothing. Thank GOD for favor. Through the grace of GOD and my Mother’s fervent prayers; I got the car sent to Virginia. I was angry and hurt, but I could handle it. The minute I saw how it adversely affected my daughter; I lost my mind.
Divorce is something many of us have and will deal with. I have a close friend who is probably one of the nicest people I know. I call him my brother from another Mother. Recently, he has been fighting with his ex-wife. She remarried a few years ago, but they have a son. That’s the bone of contention. He sends support, but somehow a $1,000.00 a month just doesn’t seem enough for her. I realize it’s not anything but a lack of forgiveness. This little boy is the most well-mannered and polite child I’ve ever met! Talk about please and thank you. Add in the yes ma’am and no sir. It’s in his DNA. His Mother is harboring some ill feeling against his Father that should have been resolved. As a result; she’s mistreating her own son. As a parent it is the most heart-wrenching thing to hear your child in pain and not be able to do anything to correct it. She needs help, but that’s the last thing she’s willing to hear.
I also got disturbing news about a former student. She is gorgeous, but more beautiful inside. She is going to court this morning to fight for custody of her children. Not that her ex-husband wants custody, but it’s his only means to control her. She has continually tried to work things out with him to no avail. When did sacrificing your children become okay?
I’m not asking for anything unreasonable. Forgiveness is healing. Let go of your past. It doesn’t have to define your future. Whatever mistake that was made; forgive you. Don’t let that harden your heart. Every mistake, every lesson, every heartbreak made you who you are. Even those that hurt you thank them. They made you who you are. And that’s pretty damn good.
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