Showing posts from August, 2011


This all started with a Facebook post: "Men are natural born leaders. A woman of substance will follow a man after GOD'S heart." ~Veela aka Venus

You may not like it. You might not even agree with it, but I'm going to tell you the TRUTH. Like the Word of GOD; it does not change and it stands forever. If you're looking for the sugar-coated version then you've come to the wrong place. Be real! You don't think I'm chastised and convicted by my own words? When GOD gives me a Word I give it to you just as it was given. Below is a comment by my Brother and Author; Terence Blackett. It is my charge to share the knowledge. We are growing together. When you know better you do better.

by Terence M. Blackett

Let me throw a "SPANNER" into the works: In 1972 Esther Vilar (a woman!) published a book called "THE MANIPULATED MAN". It was reprinted in 1998. Since she wrote the book, more than 30 years ago, she continually received death threats fr…



Standing here in disarray
A calm serenity
The winds of change can devastate
And it took this much for me
With nowhere to run and no reason left to hide
Gonna hold on
All the walls around are broken down
Now I can hear the rising sun

Surrounded by everything I want
But nothing that I need
I was blinded by the absurdity
Losing all identity
Sometimes what you fear the most is what you need
To find that road
Right around that curve a lesson learned
Now that I have the eyes to see

A hurricane, a hurricane
Is sometimes the only way to wash away the pain
A hurricane, a hurricane
Is sometimes the only thing that brings you back again

With poison toys I'd isolate
But the wind was strong and true
But now I see where the treause is
'Cause they only blocked my view
I'm spiraling down but so oblivious
Got to find my way home
There's a heart that bleeds trapped in me
But how do I break this shell of stone

A hurricane, a hurricane

Excerpt from the book "Husbands Love Your Wives..." by Terence Blackett

This is an interpretation of Corinthians Chapter 13...

Love is patient and kind; it still has patience after having said something a hundred times. Love is kind, envies no one and is not jealous: it does not try to compete with another person, it does not attempt to copy someone else.

Love is never boastful, conceited or proud:

it does not show off; it does not say:

look what I brought into our relationship!

It does not emphasize its own achievements

and it is not too proud to ask for forgiveness.

It never says: without me you would be nothing!

Love is never rude or ill-mannered because

the other person is always seen as a creation of God, as a thought of God.

Love is not selfish:

you exist for him and he exists for you

and you both exist for God -

only in that way will you find yourselves.

Love is not irritable or resentful.

Love is not quick to take offence:

It does not says this is the last time...

If you do that again... It forgives and persists. It's not dependent on the love…


I posted something that got me thinking. We live in a society that seems to condone overtly sexual behavior. This is not just coming from girls/women. Men do it too. I had someone request my friendship on Facebook and I refused until he removed something from his information. I originally joined Facebook to stay connected to my former students. I don’t mind setting the example.

My daughter talks about some of the things I’ve worn over the years, but if she’s detailed she knows that the most scandalous things I’ve worn were for the stage, and for the runway. Have I worn a fitted suit? Of course I have. Everybody likes to look good and everyone wants to show off their assets. The things I’ve worn on stage and on the runway would be inappropriate outside of those arenas. I recognize that. One of my Facebook friends was kind enough to point that out. No, you don’t see Beyoncé or Rihanna wearing their stage clothes on the street. Somehow our girls have gotten it confused. Even Lady Gaga d…


This has been a strange time for a lot of us. Things we use to do; places we use to go; even the friends we use to hang with; it just ain’t happening! Guess what? It’s okay. When I was younger I was painfully shy and people often mistook that as being vain, or aloof. There were issues I was dealing with that only me and GOD knew. Some things I’ve finally come clean on; others have yet to be revealed. Maybe I’ll do so when the time is right.

People are so quick to judge you if anything you say or do is “out of character.” “This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” ~2 Corinthians 5:17 another interpretation says, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new.” Isn’t funny how people don’t want you to forget or escape your past? Just because you’re stuck there doesn’t mean I want to be stuck too. I know how much we love and treasure our …

THE VALUE OF A THORN by Calvin Smith, Licensed Therapist and Counselor

The Value of a Thorn by Calvin Smith on Tuesday, June 21, 2011

A few thoughts about a Rose's possible take on life.

From the flower's perspective, comfort is not found in beauty but in the structures that protect it. In a natural habitat, a herbavor such as a deer or moose comes with the intention of eating most plants. However thorns on the rose which are a part of it's design, are meant to discourage the herbavor from eating the flower. Experiences can be like thorns, some experiences you have had protect you from making even worse decisions in your future where you encounter people or circumstances.

Though the experiences that facilitate disappointment seem cyclical, they also have meaning and a function. They may be telling you that you are not in the right place or in the right time. Your feelings, thoughts, and actions are designed to protect you from harm. Further they are used to help you to navigate to the environment that is healthy. Your memories are not all…


Attached is a excerpt of a speech given by Ms. Sylvia P. Flanagan; former Senior Editor of Jet Magazine. She is a phenomenal writer and speaker. She is currently available for speaking engagements. Here is the link to her website for all inquiries Please feel free to contact her directly. When someone has been a part of our history their thoughts, and ideas need to be seen and shared. ~Veela aka Venus


Today the basic premise of my speech is despite the many ills and injustices that are in the world we are living the dream each and every day. It is up to the current generation to keep the dream alive, I am not suggesting that all is well and there is no work left to be done. However, we have come a long way from 1968 when Dr. King was assassinated. We are not where we need to be but thank God we are not where we us…

Lil Wayne - How to Love (Lyrics) [New Music 2011]

HOW TO LOVE by Lil Wayne

You had a lot of crooks tryna steal your heart

Never really had luck, couldn't never figure out

How to love, how to love

You had a lot of moments that didn't last forever

Now you in a corner tryna put it together

How to love, how to love, for a second you were here

Now you over there, it's hard not to stare the way you moving

Your body, like you never had a love, never had a love

When you is just a young'un your looks but so precious

But now you're grown up, so fly it's like a blessing

But you can't have a man look at you for five seconds

Without you being insecure

You never credit yourself so when you got older

It's seems like you came back ten times over

Now you're sitting here in this damn corner

Looking through all your thoughts and looking over your shoulder

See, you had a lot of crooks tryna steal your heart

Never really had luck, couldn't never figure out

How to love, how to love

You had a lot o…



Open relationships? Facebook relationship status? Take it for what it's worth. Being "open" means being vulnerable to parasites, and saboteurs. Anyone signing up for such a relationship is a masochist and lacks self-love; let alone reciprocate love. Those in "complicated" relationships are probably unaware that they are in an "open relationship."

*Below are some of the answers spurred by my Facebook status. Ask and you shall receive.

The Best Response

Most folk have no idea what a relationship is or should be. To me an "open" relationship is a relationship. If I can not be completely honest about me to the person I'm intimate with then were just F****ing around. Folk shouldn't be afraid to reveal the desires of their hearts and minds. Folk shouldn't be in it to play games or run game. If you start in the very beginning (like when you share the first drink or dance) what you are ab…



Corrie Ten Boom, a Christian woman who survived a Nazi concentration camp during the Holocaust, said, "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you."

I have found out the hard way that forgiveness is for me; not the person I’m forgiving. It’s a hard lesson, but one we continually learn. There’s not a day that doesn’t require the lesson be applied. Someone cuts you off in traffic. Who has time for road rage? I’m a stickler about politeness and etiquette. These are lost art forms. Please and thank you just don’t happen.

I’m not so worried about the niceties, but basic human kindness. Something we seem to lack in today’s society. People look me dead in my face when I’m walking down the street. When I acknowledge them with a hello it’s returned with the most hateful look. You would think I did something to them. Kindness cost you nothing. What’s wrong with a hello or even a smile? Pleasantries don’t happen any…