DON’T TAKE MY KINDNESS AS WEAKNESS
“GIVE FROM A POSITION OF STRENGTH NOT WEAKNESS.”~Veela aka Venus
We live in a world of instant gratification. Fast food restaurants, ATMs, online applications…know if you qualify within 60 seconds! We don’t wait for anything nor do we expect to be turn downed on any level. Patience is a virtue none of us have. My daughter was a Pharmacy Technician for Walgreens a few summers ago and quickly discovered that retail was not her calling. People would pull up to the drive-thru and quickly become irritated because she couldn’t fill their prescriptions instantly. “Hey, can’t you count a pill?!” It never occurred to them that the same procedures that were followed in the store had to be followed for the drive-thru. Anyone familiar with Pharmacy knows this is life and death. The wrong medication could cost you your life!
Helping someone? I don’t have a problem with that. But being taken for granted or advantage? I no longer have the patience or tolerance. Do you know I’ve actually fallen out with a few people because they’ve taken the attitude that I owe them something? Doesn’t matter that they brought nothing to the table or that in many cases I’ve paid them out of my own pocket. For what? I don’t even know. I’m the one that loves to see each dream come true. People quickly share their aspirations with me. I do get excited. But looking at some of my previous experiences; it has cost me dearly. In the past it has cost me not only friendships, but cold hard cash money!!! Maya Angelou has a quote that I love. It has become my personal mantra. “When someone shows you who they are; believe them!”
This lesson is easier said than done. When did we become a society that feels entitled? When was what I could do for you part of the prerequisite in friendship? I’m a little confused. I have a small circle, and I’m okay with that. Yes, I want GOD to enlarge my territory, but protect me from dangers seen and unseen. Everyone has an agenda. Me? I’m not looking for you to bless me. I depend on GOD. If you decide to help me or go out of your way to do so; I’m more than appreciative. I don’t have a lot of friends, but the ones I have I treasure.
I could give you chapter and verse of the evils of users. I’ve dealt with more than I care to mention. I’ve loaned money that I’ll never see. I’ve risked my credit for those who were completely undeserving. I’ve fallen for the bad luck story. I am probably one of the most empathetic people you’d ever want to meet. It’s taken me all these years to realize that what I can or cannot do for someone should not be their sole reason for friendship. If I can help someone I will. But I am no longer looking for them to repay the loan nor keep any promises. People promise a lot of things when they’re trying to get something from you. “I’ll pay you right back. I promise.” Aren’t these the same ones who will quickly say, “I don’t owe you nothing. That was a gift.” Now that’s funny. I gave you something I didn’t have, but it was a gift? Yeah right. Good luck with that.
Learn how to give from a position of strength. What you do for someone should never be your detriment. Be prepared to accept people where they are. This good deed may cost you your friendship. In most cases; it will. The people that I never expected have been the ones to help me. Some of us are going through some things so that GOD can raise us to new levels. Remember I said, “Deeper depths; higher heights.” In order to rise to this new level you have to go deeper and explore places you’ve never been. Don’t expect these so-called friends to be around during this time. They won’t understand what GOD is doing. No one wants to be around while you’re going through. The minute you come out on the other side; they’re right there. Remember roaches only come out if there is something to be had. Keep praying. Keep fighting. Fight the good fight. When you come through remember to give GOD all glory and praise. After all it wasn’t your friends that delivered you, but GOD HIMSELF.
PSALM 23 by India Arie