LOVE: An Excuse For A Lot Of Things

Can’t live with them; can’t live without them. How many times have you heard this excuse? I can’t leave we have children together. How about: I just don’t want to be alone. Love can be the most positive thing in your life, but we constantly use it as an excuse for bad behavior. Why? Haven’t we figured out that life is too short?

I’ve been writing a lot about Spirituality and wanted to continue on that theme. I saw a friend post the above on their Facebook status and it resonated with me. I’ve made major; life altering decisions in the name of love. More than I can count. I’m positive I’m not the only one, but I will no longer use it as an excuse for mistreatment.

Some of you can’t stand the person you’re with. Waiting for the kids to be grown…some of you are singing in your Kanye voice “Wait till I get my money right.” Poof! You’ll be gone. Why wait? If you think you’re doing your children a favor by staying together; think again. Nowadays children are more perceptive than their parents and most adults. They know when there is tension in their home. Money?! Hell, which is better; your sanity or feeling you had to downgrade for peace of mind? “Alex, I’ll take how not to lose your sanity for $100.00.” Why do we play Jeopardy with our lives?

When I talk about allowing people to mistreat you I’m also referring to the fact that people treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. This goes for all my friends; male and female. You allow people to dog you out and then wonder why I don’t give you the sympathy you think you deserve. Baby, it’s so much more than that. Stop acting like a nickel when you’re a dime. If they’re not on your level leave them alone! It’s a simple concept, but hard to put into practice. Hey, you’re not alone. I’ve had my own daughter question my judgment or lack thereof. If friends and family are telling you your choice is questionable it probably is. That’s okay. We all make mistakes.

We have to get to a place (sorry here it comes for the millionth time) of self-love. Being and feeling worthy is something many of us are struggling with. You know damn well there are some people you wouldn’t want to be caught dead with. You look back at some of your previous relationships and wonder what the hell you were thinking. So does everybody else. lol

Disrespectful? No, you can do better. Abusive? No, you deserve better. Unkind, not loving? You can do better. If I hear someone tell me that I just don’t know so and so, or I caught them on a bad day; I’m going to scream! Love is not an excuse. Sorry to interrupt your illusion, but those tired excuses are not the answer. Love; is an excuse for a lot of things, but not this. Spoken from someone who loves you enough to know mediocrity is not an option.

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  1. Haha! It's rough, but it's right! ...and it needed to be said. I had a friend...notice I said HAD who just made all kinds of excuses for the abuse that she endured day in and day out! Moreover, she resented me for constantly questioning... "her choice". Needless to say, "her choice" allowed her to continue in that relationship to this day! SMH...if you don't LOVE YOURSELF, you can't even begin to accept love from anyone else or even know how you should be loved!

    I love this: "You allow people to dog you out and then wonder why I don’t give you the sympathy you think you deserve. Stop acting like a nickel when you’re a dime". hahahahaha!!!

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  2. Everyone looks for an excuse because they question there own choices.That's is what help them throughout there delima in there life.Love can make u do wrong or right(Al Green)see what love excuseses got him!I feel if we learn to seperate the difference between happy,like,want,need etc...(actions)we will no longer have room for excuseses dealing with love!

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