LOVE: An Excuse For A Lot Of Things
I’ve been writing a lot about Spirituality and wanted to continue on that theme. I saw a friend post the above on their Facebook status and it resonated with me. I’ve made major; life altering decisions in the name of love. More than I can count. I’m positive I’m not the only one, but I will no longer use it as an excuse for mistreatment.
Some of you can’t stand the person you’re with. Waiting for the kids to be grown…some of you are singing in your Kanye voice “Wait till I get my money right.” Poof! You’ll be gone. Why wait? If you think you’re doing your children a favor by staying together; think again. Nowadays children are more perceptive than their parents and most adults. They know when there is tension in their home. Money?! Hell, which is better; your sanity or feeling you had to downgrade for peace of mind? “Alex, I’ll take how not to lose your sanity for $100.00.” Why do we play Jeopardy with our lives?
When I talk about allowing people to mistreat you I’m also referring to the fact that people treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. This goes for all my friends; male and female. You allow people to dog you out and then wonder why I don’t give you the sympathy you think you deserve. Baby, it’s so much more than that. Stop acting like a nickel when you’re a dime. If they’re not on your level leave them alone! It’s a simple concept, but hard to put into practice. Hey, you’re not alone. I’ve had my own daughter question my judgment or lack thereof. If friends and family are telling you your choice is questionable it probably is. That’s okay. We all make mistakes.
We have to get to a place (sorry here it comes for the millionth time) of self-love. Being and feeling worthy is something many of us are struggling with. You know damn well there are some people you wouldn’t want to be caught dead with. You look back at some of your previous relationships and wonder what the hell you were thinking. So does everybody else. lol
Disrespectful? No, you can do better. Abusive? No, you deserve better. Unkind, not loving? You can do better. If I hear someone tell me that I just don’t know so and so, or I caught them on a bad day; I’m going to scream! Love is not an excuse. Sorry to interrupt your illusion, but those tired excuses are not the answer. Love; is an excuse for a lot of things, but not this. Spoken from someone who loves you enough to know mediocrity is not an option.