FROM A BLACK MAN’S PERSPECTIVE: WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR A BLACK WOMAN TO GIVE ME WHAT I NEED WHEN THE OTHER RACES ARE SO WILLING?
One of the most serious relationships I ever had was with a man older than my parents. And yes he was white. More important and significant is the fact that he loved me. He loved me at a time when I didn’t feel so lovable. I was coming out of a failed marriage and had lost all my confidence. Somehow he saw me in a way I couldn’t see myself. The most touching thing he ever did was dropping everything to see about me. He was a successful businessman, and his time really was his money. I’ve never forgotten that. There’s something about someone who loves you enough to make you a priority.
Maybe that’s the real issue? Not that women of a different race are quicker to make black men a priority, but black women don’t feel like this is reciprocated. When did black men and women become so distrusting of one another? I’m not sure. But I would be doing ALL women an injustice if I were to stereotype women of another race. Pushover?? Easy? lol It doesn’t work like that.
I do have a good friend who seems to be drawn to “exotic looking” women. Or should I say anyone not black. :-) I’m just telling the truth. Truth is I think it’s a symptom of his unresolved “Mommy Issues.” Well since we’re telling the truth; I have some “Daddy Issues.” But I’m the same one who asked my Daddy if he was white at the age of 4(four). lol Now that’s funny.
In life you are drawn to what you know. Life happens. And sometimes you fall in love with someone who isn’t at all what you expected. Maybe it’s because you see their heart; their spirit. There are no boundaries and you see them for who they are. I’m not gonna dictate who you should date or even who you should love. If you like it; I love it!!