Friendship requires an unconditional commitment. Just like a solid marriage, you’re required to stay through the good and bad times. That’s the importance of having GOD as the foundation in all relationships. As your friend I may not agree with everything you say or do, but I would not abandon you based on our disagreements. Example: I have a close friend that I truly treasure. We don’t see each other that often, but when we do it’s always a good time. I always wonder why we don’t do it more often. Life happens and time gets away from us. Years ago we had a disagreement about something involving her family. We didn’t speak to each other for a minute. Now I can’t even remember exactly what the disagreement was. I do know that I had something life-altering happen and my friend was the first one I called. We prayed and cried together. The past incident was never even mentioned.
Someone told me, “If someone truly cares for you then they will tell you the truth. I wouldn’t want you to lie to me.” I take that to heart. Lately friendship has been my focus because I find I know a lot of people, but consider few to be friends. I find most people don’t know how to be a friend. Nor do they know how to reciprocate friendship. I don’t take friendship lightly. I consider my closest friends to be family. You don’t get to pick your family, but friends are chosen and to be treasured.
As a friend I accept you as you are. But in all honesty, I hold you to a higher standard than others. I’m not offering or expecting anymore from you than I would from myself. The hardest lesson has been to establish boundaries. We sometimes have unrealistic and rather high, and somewhat unattainable expectations of our friends. I believe in GOD-given friendships, but they are few and far between. I’ve been blessed in my life to experience that kind of friendship. The Word says, “A friend loves at all times.” That’s not that easy to do. We all do some unlovable things. Only a true friend can love you through those times.
Learn to accept things as they are. Learn that everyone doesn’t deserve the pleasure of being up close and personal with you. Unrequited friendship means that person is incapable of returning to you what you give out. Here’s the hardest lesson; learn to give without expecting anything in return. GOD will bless you for it, but don’t look to be blessed by others. I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. Do so without expectation. That’s what being a blessing is really all about.