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WHO IS SHOWING UP IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS? WHO IS LIVING YOUR LIFE?!

I wrote something today on my Facebook status that made me contemplate my own reality. I just asked people to be their “authentic self.” How much easier would life be if we all decided to show up? Going through the motions, pretending to be someone you’re not. How tiring is this? Ever notice that if you lie about something it’s hard as hell to remember the lie, then you have to tell another lie to cover the first lie, and so on and so on… it never ends. We’ve gotten so use to pretending that we don’t even know ourselves. We pretend at work, we pretend at home, we pretend with friends, we pretend with family. Will the real “you” please stand up?! Do you even know who that is anymore? We lie to people, but no lie is greater than the ones we tell ourselves.

I was trading emails with a friend and we were laughing about how people send their “representative” to meet you. Not that you want to call people out when you first meet them, but isn’t it funny how you have that sixth sense a…

ARE YOU PUTTING YOUR TRUST IN MAN OR GOD?

Yesterday it was reported locally and nationally that there were sexual allegations against a very prominent minister in the African-American community. At this juncture and in this day and age; nothing really shocks me. We live in a society that is still cleaning up after decades of sexual molestation in the Catholic Church. The accusations of sexual improprieties in the Church are nothing new. This minister was living a secret life. The sexual orientation of another is in question. The whispers continue, but no one is ever challenged. For years it’s been a running joke in the Black Church that every choir director or minister of music is gay. It’s the reference we make about so and so being just a little too feminine. What do you expect? I know I usually write about LOVE and relationships, but this is a conversation long overdue.

I’m a healthy woman with a sexual appetite, but I would NEVER discuss this in Church. It’s taboo to even think about it. We talk about reaching ou…