ARE YOU KIDDING? WHEN DID I BECOME ENEMIES WITH MY CHILDREN AND GOD?

Recently I’ve heard all these theories and speculations on why I’m doomed to never have a relationship.

1.Men have this unrepressed anger towards their Mothers and essentially blame them for being without a Father. (Does this apply to daughters too?)

2.Women are constantly in church and don’t want to date anyone outside the church; leaving them with a narrow margin of ever being in a relationship.

3.Black women have a greater chance of being hit by a car then ever getting married.

4.We come from the legacy of a single parent home; therefore we are unequipped to be in any type of relationship.

5.We are so different from men in our thinking that we can never see eye to eye.

6.Most good women have trouble marrying a decent guy.

7.Love you Steve Harvey, but when did you figure out what I needed or wanted?

8.Oh don’t let me forget; we’re all waiting for Denzel (or someone like him) to save us from ourselves.

9.Friend of mine wrote a book in which he theorized that the affects of slavery have been perpetuated and continue to cause issues in the way black men and women relate to each other. (There’s some truth in that.)

10.Women want marriage and men don’t.

11.If a woman is more successful than a man she is doomed to be alone.

Stop, stop please just stop!!! I’m tired of the histrionics. Am I divorced? Hell yes! And I’m sure my ex-husband is happy that I LOVED him enough to be honest that it was not working. We have a beautiful daughter. She may be the only reason we were meant to come together. That’s okay. It doesn’t make him or me any less suitable as a mate.

Right now I could go outside and scream at the top of my lungs. I’m tired of the failure rate. I am tired of being told that I will never find or be LOVED. I still believe in LOVE. It is a perfect and wonderful gift from GOD. I think instead of reiterating all the reasons we can’t find LOVE or be in a healthy relationship; we should start a list of why we were meant to succeed.

I’ll start the list and you continue it.

1.James 1:17 - Every good and perfect gift comes from above. (The CREATOR meant for us to be in relationship with each other; whether it is friendship or a LOVE relationship.

Comments

  1. 2)trust in the lord and love ur self,and love will find you,u don't have to look for it.

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  2. you are truly too much!!!

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  3. every relationship must stat off as a friendship first,and if ur spiritually compatitable with the same interest,then that will grow in to a love relationship.you have to have faith in each other.

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  4. In every relationship the couple must work things out. For some couples it's easier than others because of compatibility in interests or communication styles. But for those where both are different it's much more challenging.

    Also, when one person does not want to work out anything, then it's virtually impossible to have a healthy relationship. That's when the other needs to cry out to the Lord. We can't change anyone. The Lord may answer immediately or make us wait.

    I think the bottom line is, if you really want a relationship with someone, you have to ask yourself "Am I willing to put up with all this until s/he changes?" One of the things that kept me going is I thought about how the Lord hasn't given up on me. God can change people, and he will answer our prayers in his time.

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  5. I have to thank God, there is a wonderful man in my life, that I love, respect, admire and trust. It took alot of work on myself first but at some point I told God that I was willing and ready to love, everyone, not just a man...I didn't stop at loving just family, friends, enemies, complete strangers. I kept on loving and forgiving and praying. I believe wholeheartedly that Aaron came to me when we were both at the same point in our lives and so our paths crossed. We are both loving, giving people. I stopped looking at people through my own eyes. I try to see everyone the way that God would want us to, out of love, PERIOD. Thinking this way refreshes my attitude for loving Aaron, and everyone else, every day. Even on my low days I am still tender and humble to the world. Since God is love and that's what he wants us all to be, I cant see acting any other way...and yes, it's hard, but the finality of it all is that it DOES come back. :) KEEP LOVING !!!!!!!!!

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