I promised myself I was going to see the animated movie, The Princess and the Frog. I'm sorry to say that I have yet to see it. A black princess. That in itself was worth seeing. We need more positive role models for our children, but I digress. Here's the synopsis as I understand it. The prince has been cut off by his family and is looking for a come up. Ha ha I used "come up" in the vernacular. I crack myself up. lol Okay so back to the story. The prince sets his sights on a young woman who has money and position. He practically makes a pact with the devil, and it's downhill from there.

Turns out he makes a pact with this voodoo magician who transforms him into a frog. The only way to break the curse is to find true love; to get a princess to kiss him while he's still a frog.

I've kissed a lot of frogs. I wish it was that easy. I am a queen and I believe every queen deserves a king. Unfortunately, there have been a lot of pretenders to the throne. In the movie there is an ambitious young woman and the prince mistakes her for a princess. After some convincing she kisses him, but now she's a frog too! How many times have you allowed yourself to turn into something you're not just so you could say you had someone? Self-love; sometimes the hardest to achieve.

Through various misadventures the thought process changes for both. Remember if you change your mind you can change your life. In the end they learn to appreciate the good in each other. Better yet, they recognize that where one is lacking the other has.

I share all this to say that what stands out for me in this plot is that neither one can be free unless they work together to be better. That's what marriage and partnership is really about. We're stronger together. I do however; like the fact that once they're back in human form the prince supports the princess and her dreams and they lived happily ever after. It wasn't until they accepted the shortcomings and saw greatness in each other that things began to change.

I want what everybody else wants. Not looking for a white knight to save me. I do however; want someone who demands I be at my best and gives the same. Someone who wants the best for me and supports my dreams. When we're together we create bigger dreams.

Question: Are you looking to transform someone?
Does your partner make you want to be better?


  1. My wife, Holly and I, have been married for 21 years. I have been saying, jokingly, that our marriage is old enough to drink. We are both of like intellegence and heart and I guess that is why we have been with each other so long. We rearing some fantastic children, in my opinion. We are both substantive individuals and we both respect our individuality. We both always think we are right but do not try to change each other. We never really argue. We debate the situation of the world and bring an awful lot of collected knowledge in our discussions. We both met at graduate school at the University of Chicago and were married 6 months after meeting. It truly was love at first sight. I often say that when I first saw her, I felt like I was hit in the head with a bat. I wasn't looking for it ( and that is another long story). We are partners in every sense of the word, in my opinion. I love her very much and I know she loves me very much as well. There is never any question of that. We are both pretty self contained and we do not need a whole lot of reassurance for our psyches. We are both confident humans and we respect and admire each other for our different strengths. I could go on and on. Suffice it to say that we make each other better by being essentially ourselves. Our individual intelligence juxtiposes upon each others. Our sense of heart and sense of the need for justice does the same thing.

  2. I do not think about transforming someone. I think that what you ask for in the person you would like to be with will come on its own. The idea is to marry your Best Friend. I realize that it takes time for that process to take place.

    I look forward to transfoming in a relationship because I want the person that I am involved with that completes me to see the changes within myself. But even more, I would like to notice them as well.

    I recognize, that I maybe a movement by myself. But with whom I am with, we are force when we are together. As NE-YO would put it " You (she) make me better."

    I am going to need Coretta Scott, if I am going to be King.

  3. Pretenders to the thrown....Veela you don't have to tell me...have had my share for sure! I know there is a KING for us Queens who will compliment us. Love the comments from John and me HOPE :)


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