ARE YOU SETTING A GOOD EXAMPLE?

"I want to set a standard of excellence that is so high I won't be afraid for my daughters to marry "someone like their father." - Bishop T. D. Jakes

I was on Facebook and found this quote on a new friend's wall. I quickly posted it to mine. In my status I was quick to say that I would be PROUD to have my daughter marry a man like her father. I would tell anyone that. Terry has been the best father to Courtney. We weren't able to salvage our marriage, but we love each other just the same. Our daughter represents the best of both of us. Not being funny, but even if she wasn't my child I would like and admire her.

I have to pose this question: Would you want your child to emulate the man or woman you are?

I was and have been fortunate enough to have a GOD-fearing mother who set the standard high. Although she was divorced when I was young she always gave my father the utmost respect and would not let anyone say something disparaging about him to me. That's why I went out of my way to make things as amenable as possible when I went through mine.

I could go on about what my mother did. She was the one who called my Dad to remind him to call for my birthday. One year he called on his own. I was so shocked I immediate called my mother to verify that she didn't prompt him. lol

I haven't always been the mother I'd like my daughter to emulate. She is her own person and has always been, but I did pass on to her my love for GOD. I truly don't know any other way to succeed in this life. I count being her mother a blessing.

So my question is:
Would you want your child to emulate you?
Would you want anyone to emulate the man or woman you are?

Comments

  1. Very stimulating thought, what kind of memory of me do I want to create... There's a saying "For some, you might be the only bible that person will ever read." This question reminds me of this saying.

    What will my daughters come away with based on my actions? They will say I'm flawed. However, I have good intentions. Still, I strive for excellence. So, if I had any children they would have an abundant choice of good and bad to ponder or duplicate. I hope they would see in me my will to attract a mate not like my mother or my father, but a relevant and harmonizing energy specific to who and what I am or what I am becoming; the other person that makes me greater. So, I hope as a father, if I were one, I wouldn't be afraid my daughters would attract a man like me. However, I would be, more so, hoping they would attract the most beneficial and supportive life partner regardless of how excellent I may or may not be. Let me fill them up with love so they know nothing is wrong with them and then they can attract according to high self-worth and high self-value. It's difficult for someone to attract or express greatness on all levels when feelings of "not worthy"; "not worth very much"; or "I'm not enough" prevail in their thoughts. So, for me, pouring love into my child ranks above me setting the highest standard of excellence, though, of course, there's nothing wrong with being excellent. Live the best life possible, be loving and happy!

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