Showing posts from May, 2010


I promised myself I was going to see the animated movie, The Princess and the Frog. I'm sorry to say that I have yet to see it. A black princess. That in itself was worth seeing. We need more positive role models for our children, but I digress. Here's the synopsis as I understand it. The prince has been cut off by his family and is looking for a come up. Ha ha I used "come up" in the vernacular. I crack myself up. lol Okay so back to the story. The prince sets his sights on a young woman who has money and position. He practically makes a pact with the devil, and it's downhill from there.

Turns out he makes a pact with this voodoo magician who transforms him into a frog. The only way to break the curse is to find true love; to get a princess to kiss him while he's still a frog.

I've kissed a lot of frogs. I wish it was that easy. I am a queen and I believe every queen deserves a king. Unfortunately, there have been a lot of pretenders to the th…


I wrote out a Wish List that I posted on Facebook. Some it was funny; some of it was very sincere. Yesterday my Goddaughter contacted me on Facebook because her little brother was acting up. He had been very disrespectful to his teacher, father, and even his big sister. You see VJ was born on August the 10th just as I predicted. The same day as my daughter, Courtney Nicole. I told Denise he was my child she was just carrying him for me. I didn't know what I was really saying.

Valentine's Day was the anniversary of Denise's death. I'm so proud of Sheryl Felecia. She is her mother's child. She is the spitting image of her beautiful chocolate skinned mother. I expected her to be here. I took it for granted. She told me, "Vee you have to make sure Sheryl and VJ are taken care of."

After her walking out of the second tower on 9/11 completely unscathed; I thought she was invincible. D was 6'1, and gorgeous. Who else wears heels when they'…


My marriage was short-lived and destined for failure. I had set myself up. I was by all accounts; a dutiful wife and mother. Perfection was my goal. I would try to anticipate his needs before he did. The house was spotless. I worked out religiously. The body had to be right for my man. And yes fellas; I can cook. My mother and grandmother taught me very well.

All this and it didn't work. I had stopped doing the things I loved. The things that made me Veela. No more singing; no more modeling; the things that made me who I am. Don't get me wrong. I loved being a wife; but I had set the bar so high that I couldn't live up to my own expectations. Even in the end my ex-husband told me he would not find a woman who would do all the things I did for him. Part of it was my upbringing. I was raised to believe that you "cater" to your man. I have a tendency to baby and spoil the men in my life. Fixing their plate and those types of considerations; takes n…


Destiny's Child Cater 2 U



Younger Men wonder where my secret lies
I’m not hirsute or built on a weight lifting device
But when I start to tell them
They assume I’m out to dupe ‘em
I say
Its in the reach of my heart
The span of my mind
The strides that I take
The truth on my lips
Because I’m a man
Exceptionally a man like
That’s what I can.

I walk into a room
Nervous, ill at ease
And to the women
They just don’t care
It’s as if I am not there.
But when I speak
And speak from the heart
They come and sit beside me
And try to find if I just might be
The hero they’ve been seeking
Or just another deadbeat
That wants to make their heartbeat
In a lustful one night stand
Because I’m a man
Exceptionally a man like
That’s what I can.

Women sometimes wonder
What it is in me
They look but they can’t find it
The me that’s inside me
When I try to tell them
They say it’s hard to see
Well its not that I am hiding
I am plain to see
Just softly spoken, caring
I’m just the man you see!

So I have my failings
I never said I can


"I want to set a standard of excellence that is so high I won't be afraid for my daughters to marry "someone like their father." - Bishop T. D. Jakes

I was on Facebook and found this quote on a new friend's wall. I quickly posted it to mine. In my status I was quick to say that I would be PROUD to have my daughter marry a man like her father. I would tell anyone that. Terry has been the best father to Courtney. We weren't able to salvage our marriage, but we love each other just the same. Our daughter represents the best of both of us. Not being funny, but even if she wasn't my child I would like and admire her.

I have to pose this question: Would you want your child to emulate the man or woman you are?

I was and have been fortunate enough to have a GOD-fearing mother who set the standard high. Although she was divorced when I was young she always gave my father the utmost respect and would not let anyone say something disparaging about him to me. T…